Relationships (pt. 2): Your Other Half

Now let’s get to the nitty-gritty relationships: boyfriends and girlfriends. These are extremely sticky because these relationships are less like family and more like REALLY close friends. You choose to not only be friends with this person for a season in your life, but sometimes for a lengthy time in your life. And you keep choosing it. Again and again. That’s commitment.

Image result for divergent quote i chose him
pinterest.com
There are tons of “unusual date ideas” on Pinterest that can give you ideas, but here is my advice:

Have fun.

Image result for laughing good for brain

You definitely want to enjoy hanging out together. And I’m talking about more than just the physical part of the relationship. While this plays a part, you want to genuinely enjoy being with this person. Do things that make you laugh. I mean belly-aching laughing. There are times that I’ve found that are actually scary for me, yet my better half decides to push me, and it turns out to be a very memorable moment. Remember to find what makes your significant other/spouse laugh! It will mean the world to them, and they will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Be spontaneous.

Image result for spontaneous
blog.travelworldpassport.com
This is probably my favorite part! Try things that you normally wouldn’t attempt alone! Go for crazy and see what happens. Whether this be introducing a new international cuisine into your diet, throwing a surprise party, or deciding to take a road trip, try things that get you out of the mundane, normal, everyday-ness of life. If you want this to be long term, enjoy the down time, but don’t allow yourself to lose focus because you’re bored and are willing to slip into laziness.

Be honest.

Image result for honest friendships
psmag.com
A difficult, yet very important step in any relationship! I wouldn’t recommend always saying everything that immediately comes to mind. You could lose friends fast. But establish the kind of relationship that thrives on being YOURSELF. Don’t put on a facade of any kind just because you think your significant other will appreciate or respect you more for your fake self. That shiny cover has to come off sometime, and a true, loving relationship will persevere despite the rough patches, the ugly words, the strange habits, and the mistaken thoughts. In addition to this: LEARN TO FORGIVE.

Never settle.

Image result for be yourself relationships
thecollegecrush.com
This was a phrase that I picked up from one of my friends, on choosing who to date, and moving into more serious relationships. It is so important that you know who YOU are! Without that other person. That person–though we use the term “other half” very often in our society–cannot complete you. If you’ve not spent time without another person on your arm, maybe it’s time to take a step back. Go on a trip, write in a journal. Do something crazy. Find something you love.

This is NOT in any way trying to convince those who are married to start ignoring your spouse. Rather in those cases, take time to calmly figure out what you need to do that makes you come alive, and share it with that person! FOR ALL OF YOU READING THIS: Get out and share the world. Go hunting. Swim. Bake. Smile. Scream. Take time out of your busy schedule and just BE THERE.

featured image from: http://www.innerbonding.com/

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s